Tuesday, September 23, 2008

time for a new entry

i am too busy

work is on fire and my schedule is not good.

more later

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

a point of clarification

the power of the written word. I did not realize how powerful it really is. I have been sharing and babbling in this blog for awhile now. Sometimes i write well and sometimes .... well frankly not.

I need to say something. I have been thinking about this for the last couple days. This is really not prompted by anything thing but where i am at now. I do not say this enough; so i want to go on record now.

My immediate family. I have the greatest respect and love for my ex wife, Sarah and her husband Dave. They are cool people who are making it work blending a family. I respect who they are as a couple, as believers, as family and friends. Just like everyone, they have had bumps in the road, but they land on top - which is a great place to be. They work it out. They have always communicated well with me and that makes life much easier. They have a great home they have created and a wonderful place for becca to live. I hope and pray that i have been as positive to them as they have to me. I love knowing that i am accepted and welcomed by them into their home every time i am in town. They welcome me and accept me in spite of my many faults. It never feels weird or strange.

This is the goal right? When we knew we were getting divorce, Sarah and i made commitments to each other. Things we said we would not do for Becca's sake and for ours. I am happy to say, we have stuck to those commitments. i am proud of the relationship i have with Sarah and Dave. We all have worked hard to make it work. i wished more families in our situation could have what we have.

With all that said, i need to publicly apologize to them and the 4 of you that actually read this blog. if i have not communicated that over the years, i am so sorry. With my ramblings and lack of detail, i may have left the wrong impression. Let me be clear. Sarah and Dave have created a good home environment for themselves and for becca. Sometimes it is just fun to sit back and watch them interact. Communication with a teenager is tough. Communication with a teenager as a step-parent is tougher. But between the four of us, we work it out.

Enough on that.

My extended family. Sarah's family is wonderful. Birt and Gaye. Britt, Suzy, Tyler, Drew, Seth. Matt, Heidi, Izak, Libby and Levi. these people rock. They have been more of a family to me then my own. We have laughed, ate, cried together. We have shared many good, and sometimes not so good, memories. There was this one time.....na for another time. I love them and respect them for who they are. One of many things i appreciate is that they will tell me things sometimes i do not want to hear. They care about me enough to have hard conversations. I don't like it sometimes, but they do. The things they say always have wisdom and thought behind it which makes me really think about how i can apply and better myself. One other thing is they love me and accept me. I cannot thank them enough. Like with Dave and Sarah, i hope that i have been a positive influence on them as they have been on me.

Well, wow. i need to turn off the orpah script and get moving.

that's my thought for the day

Monday, August 25, 2008


i just received a not so positive comment about my last post.

I was not trying to make a statement about dirty laundry. I was not trying to make a statement about my ex wife or her husband. I have a pretty good relationship with them and would not want to damage that. I will certainly call them and talk to them about it. I certainly did not want to offend anyone or to upset anyone who might be reading this blog. If i have, i am certainly sorry. I am sure my daughter does call and talk to her mom about things that are going on here when she visits. Not everything happens perfectly in anyones world.

I was commenting on my decision to move to Oklahoma and how i feel far away from my daughter. I have struggled with the decision. I was trying to focus on that and only that. Maybe i should have been clearer with my intent. I removed the posting because i do not want any further confusion or misunderstanding.

For the person who left the comment, thanks for commenting. I meant no harm in the statement.

Thanks for reading.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

one more added

Steve Yoder -- good friend! enjoy

Friday, August 08, 2008

ummm yeah

How you can tell you've pissed off an engineer

I laughed. I hope you do too.

Can't wait for Becca to get back from band camp. I miss talking to her. I am sure she is going to be tired when she gets back. But i am excited to hear about her trip.

Headed to Rochester, NY this weekend. Yada yada.

More later.

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

New Pic

Well with the new haircut, i thought it would be best to update my wee-mee pic. It is a closer reflection of me. Bald guy, with grey in the facial hair, on route 66, play a bass guitar. Enjoy!

On the weight loss trail, man it is hard. i don't mind saying so. the older i get the less motivated i am. but the weight must come off. Biggest problem: exercise. i need to do more and i hate it. I am not sure why i do but i do. anyway, i will keep u post on my progress. Just know i hate it.

Work: busy.

Becca: good. busy with myspace, color guard, band camp, keeping up with her friends, and getting ready for 9th grade.

Clark for now, out

Sunday, July 27, 2008

it is sunday

Good afternoon, fellow bloggers

BIG NEWS: i got a haircut. well more than that i guess. see below:

It is fricken hot here right now and decided to downgrade the hair to cool things off. Let me know what u think. I am undecided. If you know me, you know i can always grow hair. So i can grow it back if need be.

In other news, i am undecided about the upcoming election. I have always been conservative in my political view but not sure where i stand right now. I am sure i will become more informed as time goes on but i just do not at this point where i stand.

Things are ok here. Business is booming. I found a church i like and seems to fit my style. I have not fully engaged. Sidebar thought. I deal with churches all day long during the week. I get tired of the BS that is associate with it. It is few and far between a church that has it going on. So, i am enjoying not be active. I am sure i will round that corner and engage. It is not part of my DNA not too.

Well that is what is new. I am thinking of making my way back to west michigan around labor day. we will see. More on that later.


Friday, July 18, 2008

Guitar Hero III

Have u played?

One of the items we picked up while Becca was here was a Wii. Highly recommend it you have not purchased. It is alot of fun and it really funny to watch while others are playing.

One of the games is called Guitar Hero. Now, i thought i would be good. RIGHT! i suck. I keep trying to play like a real song instead of a game. I am more successful when i turn the sound off then with it on. but that defeats the purpose i guess.

needless to say, becca is getting quite good at the game and lets me know it.

Well, i am in the dumps having withdrawal on becca headed back to Michigan. The distance pains me. It was time for her to go back. Summer is ramping up to the school year as she is headed for band camp and Coast festival right around the corner.

Anyway it is hot here as summer is in Oklahoma. And work is busy which is a good thing

I am looking forward to this weekend. Kick off my shoes and relax.


Thursday, July 10, 2008

Blogger list adds and deletes

Well i have updated my blogger list. I removed some and added some. Apologize to anyone who is removed...but chances are you have not blogged in a while and that is the reason.



Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Blogging mad man


first months of not blogging....then two in two days???? how long can i keep this going?

Well, becca is going to the Jonas Brothers concert tonight here in OKC. She is going with my boss's wife and a troop of nieces and one nephew. Becca loves the Jonas Brothers. I hope she has a great time and i am thankful i am not going.

the weekend was great. We saw some great fireworks. We hung out with friends. Most of all it was just a great weekend to hang with my daughter.

If you don't have a wii, get one. It is addicting. I created my weemee the other day and have been playing the wii games. One of our favorites is cooking mama. it is a game where you have to make recipes and the game rates you on how well you do. Becca consistantly beats me at it. But that's ok. i can handle it.

One other game we picked up is Guitar Hero III. I was thinking that i would be pretty good at this because i am musically inclined. WOW was i wrong! you see it is not about music. it is about hitting the right buttons in the right sequence and frankly i suck. Becca is playing well on the medium and sometimes hard level. I cannot even make on the easy. that hurts!

Well, more in a couple days
Guitar not so much Hero

Sunday, July 06, 2008

what is goin' on?

Well here you have it

i have been spending time with my daughter, Becca. She arrived around father's day and is leaving july 17th. Becca will be a freshman starting in the fall at Grand Haven High School. Where has the time gone? i am so happy she is in Grand Haven. It is a good school district and it is where she started. I am pleased that her mom moved from Whitehall back to Grand Haven. It has been good from them all the way around.

Becca tried out for the Color Guard. She was the only freshman and there were 25 that tried out. Only 20 made the squad. this is very cool. Although she is very excited, i am not sure she really realizes how much work it will be. Well, one way or another she will find out. The Band is very busy until after Christmas. This will make connecting alittle move difficult but we will manage. The Band will travel to Disney this year; which will be a great experience for her. Anyway, she needs to be back on the 17th because they start practices and band camp.

Becca is doing great. i am proud of well she is doing.

Things at work are crazy. Good to be busy but this is crazy.

other than that, i think i have found a church i am going to hang in with for a while. it is good.

Catch ya later!
Becca's dad

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

how long?

How long can one person go without blogging? WOW! it has been awhile.

I will update when i get home tonight.

sorry for the delay

Tuesday, April 22, 2008


Earth day. Everything earth. Conservation, environment, green.....that is the big word Green. The Green Generation. The birth of Green Technology. Is your company green friendly?

Tuesday, April 15, 2008


Well a great spring break was spent with Becca. She came down for 10 days. We have a great time. Her birthday was on the 11th. We went to dinner with several co-workers and had dinner at a japanese steakhouse (one of becca's favorite places to eat)(2nd only to BD's Mongolian BBQ). We laughed alot. We talked alot. It was great to have her here. She flew back to the great white north on Saturday the 12th. I spent the weekend missing her.

Things at work are busy. We have major projects that are demanding our time. But that is a good thing, right? Most of our group is at a conference in Vegas call NAB - National Association of Broadcasters. This show is a great showpiece for us. We take several key customers out there to show some of the new technology. It is a demanding time on the feet. Thank you Jesus i am not there. Someone has to stay back and get things done.

I am slacking in the going to church realm. It is hard finding a fit for me. I was spoiled with the Watermark experience. It is a standard hard to hit. I will continue looking. It is draining.

Mom and dad are doing ok. I miss them too as i am so far away from them.

Well that's all for now.

Friday, March 21, 2008

Good Friday - 2008

WOW. is it really Easter time? Where does the time go?

How are u?

things are good here. Had a great time last week up in west michigan. I miss being there. But it was good to see family and friends and hang out.

Things here are busy. demands on time is great but it is still manageable. I would rather be busy than not. that is for sure.

Keep up on the political environment? i have. Not to get too political; but i see some falling apart in the democratic party. Not sure how this is going to shake out. Are we ready for a women president? are we ready for a black president? or will the GOP pull out all the stops? and where is Nader?

I don't know where i stand yet. too soon to tell. Being conservative by nature or nurture...lol...i am not sure where my loyalties lie at this point. I am sure it will become more clear as time goes on. Anyone's guess at this point.

I wished we would stop the blame game and focus on issues. the war. the economy. energy dependance. green environment improvements. healthcare.

I hope as time goes on we can see more definitive leadership in these areas and clearer communication on how change can be made.

Hope you have a blessed Easter season. He has Risen!

from the 405...
Carter Lee Clark

Friday, March 07, 2008

update #2

I have sat down to do this three times.

Dad is doing well. No cancer and no abnormal effects on the system. Should be fully recovered soon.

I am mucho better. The flu is AWFUL! but after 3 weeks, i am near 100%.

I am headed to the great white north next week. Cannot wait to see my daughter, family and friends.

In other news, the Lela Johnson Basketball tournament is happening the weekend of the 15th. The tournament raises money for 1st Priority in Grand Haven. It is cool because i have personal connection to this and am happy it is going well. I talked to Jeff about it the other night. Jeff is Lela's dad and the person who puts on the tournament (and my best friend). He is encouraged about the turn out and people signing up to play. It is a great opportunity for Jeff to speak with the kids about things. Jeff is a great speaker. And it raises money for a great organization.

Work is work. Busier than i can manage but i always say the opposite is far worse. I would rather be busy than not!

That's what up!
Becca's dad

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

flu bug and other updates

Sorry to the 4 people who actually read this blog for not updating lately.

I have been struggling with the latest strain of flu bug going around. I am not sure what it is but holy cow, it is BAD. I am not sure but i think it should be called the Terminator of Flu. If you have not had it count your blessings. If you have consider yourself a survivor. if you are in the midst of it, hold on it does not get better any time soon.

In other news, the Becca is doing fine. She has relocated with her mom and stepdad to Grand Haven. THIS MAKES ME VERY HAPPY! The stress of getting up early for school and being away from her friends and family was great. In addition, there was a possibility that in her 9th grade year she would transfer schools - which i think would have been really rough on her. But now that she is in GH, she will continue thru until graduation in Grand Haven.

The other note is that she and family tried Watermark. Now for Becca this was a homecoming of sorts. But for the rest, i am just glad that tried it and really liked it. I pray they continue to get involved and immersed in what Watermark has to offer.

Becca is coming to Oklahoma for spring break. This is really cool! we have tickets to see the Blue Man Group which are coming to OKC in early April. Also, it is around her birthday - super cool for dad. I plan to take some time off around that time to see some sights and just hang out!

Other than that my dad is having some surgery today. Pray for him. There is a tumor on his bladder that needs to be removed. I am hopeful that is the extent of the damage and all will be fine.

Check in later

Monday, January 21, 2008

it is like running the 90 yard dash...

the only problem is it is a 100 yard race.

This is the way i felt last night when the NY Giants kicker did his job under pressure and weather conditions. As i sat there watching the Packers dream of a super bowl game go down the toilet, i was thinking about the weird year in football. College games that were major upsets all season. It just goes to show anyone can get beaten by anyone at anytime.

I know this is a long leap but....

this is why we need to by on guard - as a family, as husband and wife. On guard, because anyone can get beaten at anytime, anywhere. I like to watch TV land sometimes. They run the show MASH alot. This particular episode BJ Hunnicut was struggling with the fact that he found a women overseas. She was perfect. Her attitude, sense of humor, the look. Lets not forget that his character is married and has a child.

The odd ball part of it was a part of the dialogue. He was talking to this lady. She is apparently a journalist - so she comes and goes as the news hits or as she pleases. His comment was he is trapped. He wakes to the army; he sleeps for the army; he eats what the army tells him to eat. She can come and go as she pleases. She tries to make him feel better. He gets more enraged. He is trapped at home with his wife and that house...he confesses.

I am not sure where i am headed with these thoughts. I just know how easy it is to get distract. I know how easy it is to lose someone very special. I know how numb i became. i know the hard work it has taken to come as far as we have. I know the pain of waking up and not having family there.

Wow. i guess the show did bug me a little.


Thursday, January 17, 2008

bumper sticker


Monday, January 07, 2008

what a great holiday

yeah it was great. spent two weeks in michigan at the holidays. caught up with becca and other family and friends. Great time. Couple campfires. good quality time with becca and of course christmas and new years.

It is back to the grind this week. I am in indianapolis finishing up a couple loose ends. things are crazy at work. we have much to do with little time to do it in.

thats all for now. gotta get back at it.


Wednesday, January 02, 2008